October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery or sexual assault of another person. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence and emotional abuse.
Domestic violence is an attempt to gain power and control over another person. It affects people in every community. Domestic abuse knows no boundaries. It occurs in families with diverse educational, racial or economic status. It affects people of all ages, gender, religion or sexual orientation.
It can start with name calling, threats, possessiveness or distrust. Abusers often apologize for their actions or they try to convince the person they are abusing that they do these things out of love or care. The violence and control intensifies over time.
Here are a few of the things abusers attempt to do to control their victim:
• They control the money (paychecks, check book, savings).